Mistakes We Make While In Relationships...

In today's world finding love is not as easy or simple as it was back in the day. With growing awareness and change in life styles, even the love game has gone through an evolution. Sometimes, when we find someone who is even remotely right for us, we tend to try anything just so that the relationship works. While its great to be so persevering. You need to understand that making decisions just so that you and your partner stay together without actually analysing the situation can be harmful in the long run. You cannot make a relationship decision based on just the yearning to be with someone. The following are a few bad decisions people make, when it comes to relationships. If you are guilty of any, you need to change your perspective.

CLINGY TENDENCIES

To love someone and want to be with them is one thing, to get completely obsessed with a man or woman and hound them constantly is just a bad move. If you decide to pursue a man or woman, do it in such a way that he or she gets the hint but at the same time does not feel overwhelmed by you. A person needs space for themselves, so don't be on his or her case 24/7. Learn to give space.

CONDITIONS

Another bad move people make when it comes to relationships is that they start giving their partner ultimatums and conditions. For example, "If you really loved me, you'd stop drinking" or "if you love me, attend so and so party with me" etc. You need to understand that you can't force someone to change and just because you are in a long term relationship does not give you the authority to emotionally blackmail your partner. Yes, what you might be suggesting could be good advice but there are better ways of communicating than to give ultimatums. So don't try the above, it sounds more like a threat than love.

HERE COMES THE BABY

When things start going slightly wrong in a relationship, many couples make the biggest mistake of deciding to have a baby, to fix things. If two mature adults can't salvage a relationship, how will a new born child help? Besides, a child is not the solution. You need to sort out issues with your partner first and then decide to have a baby. The child might only make things worse because if you and your partner are not getting along without a baby involved, there is no guarantee that things won't get worse once the baby arrives. So have a baby when you're ready and not just because you want to sort things out with your partner.

THE EXTRAS

As mentioned above, learn to give space. Don't get over possessive of your partner and try to keep a track of every move he or she makes. This is not a detective game, it's your love life so treat it with a little trust.

GOSSIP ON SOCIAL SITES

The last thing you want to do when you are having relationship trouble is to talk about it to other people. People often make silly decisions about their marriage based on what someone else says. If you want your relationship to work the decision making has to be between you and your partner. Bad mouthing him or her will only make things worse.

AFFAIRS (CHEATING)(SIDEPIECES)

When someone is having a bad relationship and can't get out of it they decided to involve a third party and hope that their spouse finds out just so that a break up can happen. This is not only childish but also insensitive. You do not need to have an affair and hurt everybody involved. If you want out of a relationship, just talk about it or at least try to make things work. Running into the arms of another man or woman won't make your life any better; in fact you'll be dealing with two lovers instead of one. So, be careful.

STAY FOR NO REASON

The worst decision for any relationship is for two people to remain in one just for the sake of it or because they are too lazy to sort out their issues. You cannot remain with someone only because you have children together or because you have no other option. This decision can scar your entire life. It's ok to move on if your relationship is making you unhappy. You and your partner can find ways to balance the equation. Of course, open communication could help solve your problems but at least try before giving up.

Remember, it takes two people to make or break a relationship.