8 Stupid Ass Games Men And Women Play While In Relationships

1.  Dodging the Digits

You shouldn’t place your life on hold to be available to your man’s every back and call, but if you’re really not busy, pretending like you are is a tad bit pathetic.  In my experience, if you find yourself struggling not to answer or make calls by turning off your ringer or changing your number, then you’re obviously still preoccupied with the desire to talk to him. Save yourself a bit of stress and just answer the phone, so you can focus on actually getting a life.

2.  The “6 Month” Rule or Playing Hard to Get

You may be convinced of the belief that if you have sex too soon, he’ll hit it and quit it.  But the truth is that if sex is all a man wants he’ll be out of there whether it happens after two months or two days.  That doesn’t mean that you should have sex every time you feel a little flushed over a glistening set of abs, but when you treat sex like a trophy at the end of a race, you can’t be mad when your man is running right past getting to know you so that he can reach the finish line.  Use discretion, but keep in mind that if a man really wants to be with you sex won’t be the deciding factor in whether he stays or goes.

3.  Pleading the Fifth

“It’s not cheating if it’s in a different zip code.” “You asked me did we have sex, and we didn’t. (But fellatio doesn’tcount as sex).”  These are all examples of lies by omission or finding a way to give an honest answer that isn’t exactly the entire truth.  But guess what?  Your gut will tell on you every time.  The pit of your stomach, where your conscience lives will throb when you leave something out that you know your mate would want to know, but will probably
hurt the relationship.

4.  Breaking Up to Make Up

Out of all the games people play in relationships, breaking up to make up is probably the most popular.  Maybe it’s all the episodes of Jersey Shore or the fact that many people have never witnessed a healthy relationship to know what it looks like.  One thing a healthy relationship isn’t is dramatic highs and lows with nothing in between.  Make up sex can be great, but not if you’re having it every three days.  If all your relationship consists of is screaming matches and then passionate Baby Boy-style lovemaking, it’s slowly taking a toll on your relationship and weakening it.  The best relationships are those of stability, even if you find that boring.

5.  Reverse Psychology

Why do good girls like bad guys?  Well, they really don’t.  Good girls want to have sex with bad guys, and then when it comes to a relationship they want to turn the bad guy into a good guy as proof as to what an incredible girl they are…and it usually doesn’t work.  Unfortunately, most men buy into this belief that in order to get the girl you want you have to treat her badly and break down her self-worth without seeing where those same girls are a few years into the future.   You don’t have to be a pushover and you don’t have to be a jerk, you just have to be yourself.   You want someone to fall in love with who you truly are and not who you think they want to be with.  You can only keep up the façade for so long and the truth will always come to the light.

6.  The Crying Game

Your bestie’s boyfriend just made it official by placing a beautiful princess-cut on her left hand, and in an effort to get the same (if not better) you let the water works start to flow because the gleam from her diamond is blinding you to the fact that you’ve got a damn good thing going on yourself.  This leaves your man defenseless, confused and willing to do whatever it takes to get you to stop crying.  Not only is this unfair, but it’s immature.  Crying is what children do when they can’t get their way, and when abused, your man will do just as your parents did when they were tired of the tears: Ignore you. 

7.  Guilt Trippin

You’ve nagged you’re Captain Save ‘Em who’s rescued you from your less than stellar beginnings and introduced you to a different kind of life, but unfortunately many women sometimes use their difficult past as a crutch for their present mistakes.  You can only use your less-than-perfect past or upbringing as an excuse for so long.  You have to be accountable for your mistakes and stop blaming your past for you’re the faulty decisions you are making right now.  It’s selfish to make your partner feel like your downfall will be their fault and they can’t fill all of your demands.  Your mate shouldn’t feel like he’s dating someone who always needs to be rescued.

8.  I Don’t Want You But…

I don’t want you to be with anyone else either.”  It can be easy to mistake love with possession.  It’s obvious the relationship isn’t working, but every time it seems like you are moving on with your life, your partner finds a reason to pull you back into their’s.  He/she is not losing it because he/she wants to be with you desperately, it’s because he/she doesn’t want anyone else to have you. It’s 2015 and no one owns anybody, so unless you really want to be with someone, don’t attempt to have your cake and eat it too.